I made a post early this month, which can be seen here.
From there, all of this has just moved far down hill into this messy ball of fluff and confusion.
I'll explain.
Me and this girl are both part of a christian theater group, which is sort of how we met in the first place- But that's irrelevant (kind of.)
The initial problem was that she said she's no longer interested in me because we don't talk and see each other enough, which I thought was kind of an unfair thing to say on her part.
About a week later, she announces that she has a boyfriend; which makes all of this far more stressful than it should be. To address the issue, I for once actually expressed myself, and sent her a very large message.
In response, she sends me this (I'll fix some grammar issues to make it easier on the eyes.):
"I'm sorry.
I've known him for half the time that I've known you, but with him, we can see each other more often, and I look forward to talking, texting, and just being with him (in a way I never felt with you.)
I do care about you a lot, and I don't like you being upset.
You're an amazing guy, and I really wish I liked you like that, but I just can't.
I thought a lot about what God was telling me, and he told me, in short, that he has someone else planned for you, and by thinking about you like that, I was starting to put a bump in his plan. This doesn't mean I don't want to be friends, I do. I just don't want to continue being a bump in Gods plan."
Speaking even as a pretty understanding person.. I didn't take this well.
I essentially responded noting the fact that she hasn't even tried to be my friend, which has made things incredibly difficult, and she needs to think about happiness and what that means for a relationship.
You can probably see the snowballing happening as you read this, but here is my very main point:
I have to see her three to five times each week because of a production we are both a part of, and this relationship being quite damaged makes enjoying it very (very) hard.
So I need advice how I should go about repairing this friendship, into just a friendship, because I'm at a loss.
P.S Oh yeah! Haha! She said that she doesn't believe in dating before the age of 16, and she's 14, so.. Yeah.
From there, all of this has just moved far down hill into this messy ball of fluff and confusion.
I'll explain.
Me and this girl are both part of a christian theater group, which is sort of how we met in the first place- But that's irrelevant (kind of.)
The initial problem was that she said she's no longer interested in me because we don't talk and see each other enough, which I thought was kind of an unfair thing to say on her part.
About a week later, she announces that she has a boyfriend; which makes all of this far more stressful than it should be. To address the issue, I for once actually expressed myself, and sent her a very large message.
In response, she sends me this (I'll fix some grammar issues to make it easier on the eyes.):
Quote:
"I'm sorry.
I've known him for half the time that I've known you, but with him, we can see each other more often, and I look forward to talking, texting, and just being with him (in a way I never felt with you.)
I do care about you a lot, and I don't like you being upset.
You're an amazing guy, and I really wish I liked you like that, but I just can't.
I thought a lot about what God was telling me, and he told me, in short, that he has someone else planned for you, and by thinking about you like that, I was starting to put a bump in his plan. This doesn't mean I don't want to be friends, I do. I just don't want to continue being a bump in Gods plan."
I essentially responded noting the fact that she hasn't even tried to be my friend, which has made things incredibly difficult, and she needs to think about happiness and what that means for a relationship.
You can probably see the snowballing happening as you read this, but here is my very main point:
I have to see her three to five times each week because of a production we are both a part of, and this relationship being quite damaged makes enjoying it very (very) hard.
So I need advice how I should go about repairing this friendship, into just a friendship, because I'm at a loss.
P.S Oh yeah! Haha! She said that she doesn't believe in dating before the age of 16, and she's 14, so.. Yeah.