im going to try and keep this short, Okay i'm 17 and this girl is 18 and we've been going out for 3 months now, we argue quite a bit and to me it seems like the majority of the time its me keeping the conversation alive, i've only seen her twice outside of college (in england) and that was at my friends party, she is busy with stuff outside college like work and dance however when she is free (which is clearly hardly ever), she either spends it with her friends or doesn't tell me she has the day off. She also hides alot from me, i know it may be trust and said this to her but she just tells everyone but me for example at new years she basically mugged (ditched) me off for another party (even though i had a party for her basically as she made it a BIG deal that she has to see me over the christmas holiday) and started grinding the boys and girls there and even though she said to me she might get on two lesbians (good one!) i said just to have a good time, she took that and got on two ugly non lesbians and won't tell me what happened just that she made out with them for ages and started dirty grinding everyone (boys and girls) ... she's ditched me twice when we could of met up instead she spent time with her "friends" One of her friends she ditched me for on (NYE day time) she said 2 weeks before that for me to beat him up (i said no) as he removed her on facebook and had ago at her because she got a boyfriend and that he loves her, she ditched me to help him with his media... it was to pose with him doing couple stuff... i said do whatever you want at first as i thought it was just a random friend, then i found out it was him i said its weird you would even do that. But the breaking point for me was when i found out from a guy that i hate as he manipulates women, that she told him that she said to my face that she doesn't love me (she never said that) and that she still loves her ex and misses the time with him (been a year and bit since they split) just to let you know we got into a massive argument as i called him cunt as he fucked her life up and used her, i also (i know i was in the wrong here) drunk called her and said i'll beat him up, i was very drunk and told her that you know i dont mean that.
apparently now a days because someone whom has an illness can use someone and get away with it!
she also ignores any of my advice about friends and have a go at me when she knows im just being realistic... i say it's going to be a circle, before you know it you'll be asking me what to do again and ignore me (kinda like us being buddies and then arguing aha) She also said to me this relationship is "okay" this is NOTHING more i can do for her to get this relationship any better, i give her sympathy, i give her time, im always interested in what she does (she's barely interested in what i like/do) I have no clue what to do!
I don't know what to do, i wanna be with her, i know alot of the time i'm in the wrong and i always say sorry and try to forget her past, but she keeps bringing her ex (sex life etc, just plays with my mind) but she's hardly said sorry to me and always turns it that im the bad guy.
I could go more in depth but can't be bothered, you got the situation! I really wanna be with her! i know there's ALWAYS two sides of the story to everything and i know i'm no saint but in no way have i been horrible to her. I dont mind waiting and being patient to see her out college, but when she ditches me to go get smashed with her friends and she's suppose to be ill, it makes me feel like im second class to her
So i didn't keep this short, if you dont wanna read it all here
>haven't seen her one to one outside of college in the 3 months we have been going out
>ditched me for some guy she wanted me to beat up to do couple stuff for his media
>still loves her ex (found out from guy who told her why do you hang around my friends when they are virgins, other words he's a tit)
>conversations about my interests and what i do last about 3 texts and that's that, she doesn't pay any interest in what i'm interested in
>every argument it's my fault and i'm the bad guy
>never listens to my advice and shuns it off
>says this relationship is "okay" when all i do is try my best to adapt to her situations and she flips out when i say my feelings
I think the only way i can keep this alive is if i just give up on getting her to do stuff outside college until she actually asks me and avoid saying how i feel, as it always end up in an argument.
apparently now a days because someone whom has an illness can use someone and get away with it!
she also ignores any of my advice about friends and have a go at me when she knows im just being realistic... i say it's going to be a circle, before you know it you'll be asking me what to do again and ignore me (kinda like us being buddies and then arguing aha) She also said to me this relationship is "okay" this is NOTHING more i can do for her to get this relationship any better, i give her sympathy, i give her time, im always interested in what she does (she's barely interested in what i like/do) I have no clue what to do!
I don't know what to do, i wanna be with her, i know alot of the time i'm in the wrong and i always say sorry and try to forget her past, but she keeps bringing her ex (sex life etc, just plays with my mind) but she's hardly said sorry to me and always turns it that im the bad guy.
I could go more in depth but can't be bothered, you got the situation! I really wanna be with her! i know there's ALWAYS two sides of the story to everything and i know i'm no saint but in no way have i been horrible to her. I dont mind waiting and being patient to see her out college, but when she ditches me to go get smashed with her friends and she's suppose to be ill, it makes me feel like im second class to her
So i didn't keep this short, if you dont wanna read it all here
>haven't seen her one to one outside of college in the 3 months we have been going out
>ditched me for some guy she wanted me to beat up to do couple stuff for his media
>still loves her ex (found out from guy who told her why do you hang around my friends when they are virgins, other words he's a tit)
>conversations about my interests and what i do last about 3 texts and that's that, she doesn't pay any interest in what i'm interested in
>every argument it's my fault and i'm the bad guy
>never listens to my advice and shuns it off
>says this relationship is "okay" when all i do is try my best to adapt to her situations and she flips out when i say my feelings
I think the only way i can keep this alive is if i just give up on getting her to do stuff outside college until she actually asks me and avoid saying how i feel, as it always end up in an argument.