So, my own 'romantic' dilemma doesn't really have much to do with being heartbroken, saddened, or otherwise emotionally destroyed.
More so how to deal with what I like to call a 'problem' I've been having with a friend of mine (who is a girl.)A few months back, I told this girl how I feel about her. That I like her, yatta yatta yatta.
She said she feels the same way, happy day, overwhelming night, etc., but this isn't my issue, but more so just exposition.
Over the past two months, however, I had been facing a social and emotional distance from her. It was pretty clear I was being isolated.
When I actually confronted her, it turned out that she no longer felt that way about me because she didn't see me much, and didn't want to lead me on.
A few details here that are important:
- I'm completely fine with just being her friend, even if I still feel the same way about her.
- I used to talk to her all the time, which was essentially the reason I was attracted to her.
- She slowly began spending less time around me- Not saying goodbye, not messaging me back, no hugs (I love hugs, from all of my friends.) All that good stuff.
- We're talking about a girl who is very indecisive, but somehow has refrained from jumping from liking me to another guy.
- She's been 'hurt' a lot. Meaning she expressed feelings towards a person who, in the end, wasn't going to return them.
- This situation likely could've been solved by talking back to me more.
- I've been building up this relationship for MONTHS. Messaging, dancing, singing, talking, drawing, writing, gifts, hugs- I mean, c'mon! I did a lot to get this far!
What I'm asking is, is should I try to repair my relation with her?
She once stated to me this: "A good friend would always be there, and not break off the relationship."Friends are incredibly valuable to me, and I would prefer for her to be more than that, but I'm hesitant to just throw myself onto her, trying to become great friends once more.
(One last tid-bit: I'm 15, as of today.)
Thanks for reading, if at all!
- Joe
Edit: Oh yes!
I figured this was rather critical as well to how you construct your response:
I don't mean 'more than that' in the sense of my girlfriend, but someone I can be close to until I'm actually ready for that kind of commitment.
