i have a really difficult family situation going on right now and honestly i dont know what to do.
i am adopted. my mom is the same she remarried after her and my biological dad divorced, i was abused and my biological dad eventually gave up his rights to prevent going to jail, so mom's husband adopted me. i have zero contact with my grandparents on my biological dad's side. i was extremely close with them, but now it's like forbidden contact even though they did nothing wrong. and it's been that way since i was 5.
my mom was molested by her dad and his friends as a small child, but it was pushed aside and hidden basically and she is 36 now and last year finally came out and told us about it. i was extremely close with her family as well. but am again forbidden to talk to any of them because my mom has her own emotionally issues she is facing right now. my pawpaw is not at all like that anymore, he is a completely changed person from who he was before. i mean, that was like 30 years ago.. back then he was an alchoholic and all kind of other stuff. mom has admitted that he is not the same, but she has broke off from her family and it's like a crime for any of us to talk to them either. we have moved two hours away and nobody told any of them, and my parents changed their cell phone numbers so that they wouldnt have it. i feel like i am being hidden away. and mom says she's waiting for an apology from them, but if they have no way to contact she isn't going to get that obviously. we were all essentially one big happy family until she came out and told, now everything is weird.
the only family i am allowed to have contact with is my adoptive dad's family. i am not blood related, so it's just extremely awkward, and always has been. i am a senior this year, and i know they aren't planning to let anyone from my mom's family nor my side come to my graduation. i dont feel that that is fair, i just dont think it is right for my mom to hinder an important part of my life just because she has stuff going on. if i want someone - particularly family - to come to my graduation i think i should be able to invite them, especially grandparents! but i dont know what to do because i know that if i talk to my parents they will say that i am being insensitive to my mom's needs. what the heck am i supposed to do? and it isn't just aout the graduation. i want to talk to my family. is that too much to ask?
i am adopted. my mom is the same she remarried after her and my biological dad divorced, i was abused and my biological dad eventually gave up his rights to prevent going to jail, so mom's husband adopted me. i have zero contact with my grandparents on my biological dad's side. i was extremely close with them, but now it's like forbidden contact even though they did nothing wrong. and it's been that way since i was 5.
my mom was molested by her dad and his friends as a small child, but it was pushed aside and hidden basically and she is 36 now and last year finally came out and told us about it. i was extremely close with her family as well. but am again forbidden to talk to any of them because my mom has her own emotionally issues she is facing right now. my pawpaw is not at all like that anymore, he is a completely changed person from who he was before. i mean, that was like 30 years ago.. back then he was an alchoholic and all kind of other stuff. mom has admitted that he is not the same, but she has broke off from her family and it's like a crime for any of us to talk to them either. we have moved two hours away and nobody told any of them, and my parents changed their cell phone numbers so that they wouldnt have it. i feel like i am being hidden away. and mom says she's waiting for an apology from them, but if they have no way to contact she isn't going to get that obviously. we were all essentially one big happy family until she came out and told, now everything is weird.
the only family i am allowed to have contact with is my adoptive dad's family. i am not blood related, so it's just extremely awkward, and always has been. i am a senior this year, and i know they aren't planning to let anyone from my mom's family nor my side come to my graduation. i dont feel that that is fair, i just dont think it is right for my mom to hinder an important part of my life just because she has stuff going on. if i want someone - particularly family - to come to my graduation i think i should be able to invite them, especially grandparents! but i dont know what to do because i know that if i talk to my parents they will say that i am being insensitive to my mom's needs. what the heck am i supposed to do? and it isn't just aout the graduation. i want to talk to my family. is that too much to ask?