I'm new to this forum, I finally registered because I've found the advice that I've read on here to be helpful so I've decided to come here and ask for help on how to take a friendship that I have with a girl and make it into a relationship. I'll try to keep it short and to the point.
I've been friends with this girl that I like since High School, I'm now heading into my Sophomore year in college in the fall as is she and she's friends with the rest of my social circle that hangs out with the kids from High School. I developed feelings for her around the start of the year and asked one of her best friends to set up opportunities where I could hang out with her so I could ask her out but she got a boyfriend a day before I was going to ask her out (she herself said it was a rebound relationship from her last boyfriend) so I was left to wait a couple of months and I lost interest until I saw her at a party last month and found out she was single. The problem is that I can never find an opportunity at these parties to really invite her to go to lunch sometime or something with the way that these parties are. She is always hanging around with the whole group because these parties are "get togethers" for old high school friends, not a place to meet someone and hook up so she would just be uncomfortable if I pulled her aside and everyone would see if I had pulled her aside. I only see her at these parties anymore and the problem is that they are only held about once a month. I don't see her enough to get close enough to her but when we do see each other, we're usually talking to each other more than anyone else at the party. She always comes to stand next to me and she touches me a lot. We have always been good casual friends but both of us tend to hold back a little when it comes to relationships.
I recently have thought of asking her friend to tell her that I used to be into her or that I am into her now and to see how she reacts. I would rather tell her in person but I don't see her enough. I know there are other girls out there, but this girl is a casual friend, I just haven't been seeing her much lately and it's never really personal because it's always at a party. I am wondering if any of you believe that this is a good idea?
I've been friends with this girl that I like since High School, I'm now heading into my Sophomore year in college in the fall as is she and she's friends with the rest of my social circle that hangs out with the kids from High School. I developed feelings for her around the start of the year and asked one of her best friends to set up opportunities where I could hang out with her so I could ask her out but she got a boyfriend a day before I was going to ask her out (she herself said it was a rebound relationship from her last boyfriend) so I was left to wait a couple of months and I lost interest until I saw her at a party last month and found out she was single. The problem is that I can never find an opportunity at these parties to really invite her to go to lunch sometime or something with the way that these parties are. She is always hanging around with the whole group because these parties are "get togethers" for old high school friends, not a place to meet someone and hook up so she would just be uncomfortable if I pulled her aside and everyone would see if I had pulled her aside. I only see her at these parties anymore and the problem is that they are only held about once a month. I don't see her enough to get close enough to her but when we do see each other, we're usually talking to each other more than anyone else at the party. She always comes to stand next to me and she touches me a lot. We have always been good casual friends but both of us tend to hold back a little when it comes to relationships.
I recently have thought of asking her friend to tell her that I used to be into her or that I am into her now and to see how she reacts. I would rather tell her in person but I don't see her enough. I know there are other girls out there, but this girl is a casual friend, I just haven't been seeing her much lately and it's never really personal because it's always at a party. I am wondering if any of you believe that this is a good idea?