(I hope this is the right place to post this... :P)
I first came out to my (then) best friend who I had a crush on. Over the months, as we talked more and grew closer, I began to realize this. Turns out, she had liked me for at least two years already, which was absolutely fantastic. (Note: We're both bi.) We decided we didn't want to be "dating", but we grew closer as time went on. Eventually, I slept over and we kissed and watched movies and it was all around great.
That night, one of my friends, a guy, texted me. I knew him from camp and things. She asked for his number, I asked him if that was okay, and he said yes. For the next few days, he was all she could talk about. At first it didn't bother me, but then she would randomly change the subject to something he had said to her and whenever I asked "what's up" she'd answer "texting this guy." So I started to retreat into myself a bit, because I was worried she was developing a crush on him. I didn't talk to her as much, but she didn't seemed bother as she had a new "bro". She also began setting boundaries between us, saying since we weren't "together" we shouldn't do some things that we had been.
Eventually, we got back to talking normally and everything. But one day, when I'm waiting for her by her locker like I always do, she confirmed my suspicions from before. However, she said her "like" for him wasn't strong enough for anything to really happen. She said she still liked me, but it wasn't fair to either of us (the guy and me) if she held two people in her heart at once.
Literally two days after that, she tells me he returns her feelings. At this point, I didn't know what to say. Of course I'm broken at this, but I tried not to let it bother me. We still talked enough, so I thought it was okay.
Two weeks ago, he sent me a text telling me they were dating. He thanked me for introducing them. I said congrats and said I was happy for them. She didn't say a word about it until I confronted her.
So basically I went through my first break up that wasn't really a break up according to her because we were never "together." But she was the one who initiated most things. It also seemed like she was safeguarding herself the whole time, so she wouldn't take fallback for any of it. I know these things happen, but she just seems very insensitive towards me about the whole thing. For instance, when she told me she liked this guy, she said I could go "act on my feelings for this other boy", when I never liked him at all. She also kept our "date" for our grade's formal, though she fretted for a while about what her boyfriend would think of a picture we took and ultimately ignored me.
(Sorry for such a ramble.)
So... I'm just kind of wondering about other people's thoughts on this. All my friends say I was cheated and I need to just forget them and move on. I don't want to sound overly attached, but these were some of my better friends and now they're slipping away.
I first came out to my (then) best friend who I had a crush on. Over the months, as we talked more and grew closer, I began to realize this. Turns out, she had liked me for at least two years already, which was absolutely fantastic. (Note: We're both bi.) We decided we didn't want to be "dating", but we grew closer as time went on. Eventually, I slept over and we kissed and watched movies and it was all around great.
That night, one of my friends, a guy, texted me. I knew him from camp and things. She asked for his number, I asked him if that was okay, and he said yes. For the next few days, he was all she could talk about. At first it didn't bother me, but then she would randomly change the subject to something he had said to her and whenever I asked "what's up" she'd answer "texting this guy." So I started to retreat into myself a bit, because I was worried she was developing a crush on him. I didn't talk to her as much, but she didn't seemed bother as she had a new "bro". She also began setting boundaries between us, saying since we weren't "together" we shouldn't do some things that we had been.
Eventually, we got back to talking normally and everything. But one day, when I'm waiting for her by her locker like I always do, she confirmed my suspicions from before. However, she said her "like" for him wasn't strong enough for anything to really happen. She said she still liked me, but it wasn't fair to either of us (the guy and me) if she held two people in her heart at once.
Literally two days after that, she tells me he returns her feelings. At this point, I didn't know what to say. Of course I'm broken at this, but I tried not to let it bother me. We still talked enough, so I thought it was okay.
Two weeks ago, he sent me a text telling me they were dating. He thanked me for introducing them. I said congrats and said I was happy for them. She didn't say a word about it until I confronted her.
So basically I went through my first break up that wasn't really a break up according to her because we were never "together." But she was the one who initiated most things. It also seemed like she was safeguarding herself the whole time, so she wouldn't take fallback for any of it. I know these things happen, but she just seems very insensitive towards me about the whole thing. For instance, when she told me she liked this guy, she said I could go "act on my feelings for this other boy", when I never liked him at all. She also kept our "date" for our grade's formal, though she fretted for a while about what her boyfriend would think of a picture we took and ultimately ignored me.
(Sorry for such a ramble.)
So... I'm just kind of wondering about other people's thoughts on this. All my friends say I was cheated and I need to just forget them and move on. I don't want to sound overly attached, but these were some of my better friends and now they're slipping away.