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Okay, so a couple of weeks ago or so I went on a date with the President of my school's GSA, which I am an active member of, who is really cute and sweet. Around this same time I texted my good friend's girlfriend asking about him because he hadn't been answering my texts and she told me that he had broken up with her, to me they seemed like a really good couple with good chemistry and I felt sorry for her.
After my date with the President he told me he isn't ready for a relationship, this annoyed me because only moments before we had been cuddling on a couch but I understood that his previous relationship still lingers in his mind. I started texting my friend's ex frequently and became friends with her and renounced my friendship to her ex as a sign of support.
I went on a trip for a week and began to text this girl everyday and the guy occasionally. I feel strongly about him and am beginning to have feelings for her that are beyond friendship as well. Here are the speed bumps though. He isn't showing signs of coming out of this non-relationship phase soon and has told me not to wait for him, she is the sister of the guy I had an embarrassingly huge crush on in eighth grade(I have started many threads on this subject), I am attracted to both romantically but only to him sexually.
There are a couple of side issues attached to this larger one as well, though.
First, if I do end up dating her people will ask me about my label in confusion and will probably criticize me as well because most people who are not LGBTQ etc. don't tend to understand that human sexuality can be extremely grey and would want something more concrete. I could tell them either that I am homosexual/biromantic or use the label Ezra Miller uses "queer", both of which will really confuse most people, like my mother.
Second, if I do end up dating her things would be veeeeery awkward between me and her brother, more so than they are already. I mean if I were him I would be offended and would think that someone like me were a bad guy for trying to pull something like this and should not date my sister. First him and then her sister, how would that look? Also, what if the guy who I like is crushed because he still likes me and secretly did want me to wait?
Your advice, feedback, and support is much needed and appreciated. Thank you for your time :)
Okay, so a couple of weeks ago or so I went on a date with the President of my school's GSA, which I am an active member of, who is really cute and sweet. Around this same time I texted my good friend's girlfriend asking about him because he hadn't been answering my texts and she told me that he had broken up with her, to me they seemed like a really good couple with good chemistry and I felt sorry for her.
After my date with the President he told me he isn't ready for a relationship, this annoyed me because only moments before we had been cuddling on a couch but I understood that his previous relationship still lingers in his mind. I started texting my friend's ex frequently and became friends with her and renounced my friendship to her ex as a sign of support.
I went on a trip for a week and began to text this girl everyday and the guy occasionally. I feel strongly about him and am beginning to have feelings for her that are beyond friendship as well. Here are the speed bumps though. He isn't showing signs of coming out of this non-relationship phase soon and has told me not to wait for him, she is the sister of the guy I had an embarrassingly huge crush on in eighth grade(I have started many threads on this subject), I am attracted to both romantically but only to him sexually.
There are a couple of side issues attached to this larger one as well, though.
First, if I do end up dating her people will ask me about my label in confusion and will probably criticize me as well because most people who are not LGBTQ etc. don't tend to understand that human sexuality can be extremely grey and would want something more concrete. I could tell them either that I am homosexual/biromantic or use the label Ezra Miller uses "queer", both of which will really confuse most people, like my mother.
Second, if I do end up dating her things would be veeeeery awkward between me and her brother, more so than they are already. I mean if I were him I would be offended and would think that someone like me were a bad guy for trying to pull something like this and should not date my sister. First him and then her sister, how would that look? Also, what if the guy who I like is crushed because he still likes me and secretly did want me to wait?
Your advice, feedback, and support is much needed and appreciated. Thank you for your time :)