Hi everybody, this is my first post here so I will do my best to not make it too long.
So I'm a guy and my best friend is a girl I've known since 7th grade (im going to be a softmoore). We are really close and i know everything about her and she knows all about me. Anyway, last year in 8th grade she left the small school i went to at the semester and went to a normal public school. It was hard for me, but i knew it was what she needed. Anyway this is where the problem starts.
About a month after she left, we were talking and she told me she made plans to smoke pot and take some pills. At the time i freaked out because despite its being bad, i still over reacted. Anyway we didnt talk for months and i became really depressed. We started talking a month before the start of this school year and put our friendship back together. The thing is, that she's getting high a few times a week and she drinks whenever shes at a party.
I've done my best to not argue about it and i got her to stop taking pills, so shes only smoking weed and drinking. But I just don't know what to do. I don't really care about her smoking pot, but because of who shes around shes tried other things and plans to try new things. I am really scared that this is gonna end up hurting her. I've told her that I'm worried and she appreciates it but I can't change her mind. People tell me to just move on and that i can't save someone from themself, but i can't do that. Shes my friend and I love her. I would put my life on the line for hers. I care too much to just give up on her like that and that won't change.
And then theres the drinking. A month ago she said she couldn't hang out cause she was hungover and it took everything in me to not just break down right there. I knew she was drinking but that was just a breaking point. the other day she was complaining about a part because it was sober. Its just so hard to see this happen in front of me. I don't know what to do. Shes not really "addicted" but she just enjoys it and won't stop. Its not everyday and its not always bad, but i still scared. And sometimes my protectiveness and my love, turn into being just angry. Sometimes i want to tell her that shes being selfish and only thinking about herself but thats not gonna solve problems.
I just saw her in person for the first time in a year and half despite talking to her every day. I was a weirdo cause i was nervous, but I'm afraid that by not being a part of the substances and the partying that we are growing apart. I would never do anything like that because of her. I promised her I would always be there, and if i am stoned or drunk than i cant really be there for her. I am too scared of losing our relationship like last time.
I know this is really long.... I just need help or support or advice. I don't want to hear anything about leaving it be or giving her up because its not gonna happen. I just dont know right now. I just dont know.:(
So I'm a guy and my best friend is a girl I've known since 7th grade (im going to be a softmoore). We are really close and i know everything about her and she knows all about me. Anyway, last year in 8th grade she left the small school i went to at the semester and went to a normal public school. It was hard for me, but i knew it was what she needed. Anyway this is where the problem starts.
About a month after she left, we were talking and she told me she made plans to smoke pot and take some pills. At the time i freaked out because despite its being bad, i still over reacted. Anyway we didnt talk for months and i became really depressed. We started talking a month before the start of this school year and put our friendship back together. The thing is, that she's getting high a few times a week and she drinks whenever shes at a party.
I've done my best to not argue about it and i got her to stop taking pills, so shes only smoking weed and drinking. But I just don't know what to do. I don't really care about her smoking pot, but because of who shes around shes tried other things and plans to try new things. I am really scared that this is gonna end up hurting her. I've told her that I'm worried and she appreciates it but I can't change her mind. People tell me to just move on and that i can't save someone from themself, but i can't do that. Shes my friend and I love her. I would put my life on the line for hers. I care too much to just give up on her like that and that won't change.
And then theres the drinking. A month ago she said she couldn't hang out cause she was hungover and it took everything in me to not just break down right there. I knew she was drinking but that was just a breaking point. the other day she was complaining about a part because it was sober. Its just so hard to see this happen in front of me. I don't know what to do. Shes not really "addicted" but she just enjoys it and won't stop. Its not everyday and its not always bad, but i still scared. And sometimes my protectiveness and my love, turn into being just angry. Sometimes i want to tell her that shes being selfish and only thinking about herself but thats not gonna solve problems.
I just saw her in person for the first time in a year and half despite talking to her every day. I was a weirdo cause i was nervous, but I'm afraid that by not being a part of the substances and the partying that we are growing apart. I would never do anything like that because of her. I promised her I would always be there, and if i am stoned or drunk than i cant really be there for her. I am too scared of losing our relationship like last time.
I know this is really long.... I just need help or support or advice. I don't want to hear anything about leaving it be or giving her up because its not gonna happen. I just dont know right now. I just dont know.:(