Now i don't know where to post this but basically i've known this girl for 6 months, i went out with her for 4 months and now we are friends for 2 months.
basically without boring you to death with what went wrong etc, she didn't see me at all outside college when we were dating, and ever now i havent seen her outside college, her excuse is that she is scared of experiencing "new things". Now, i basically was telling her that she has to experience new things to get past this fear and i tell her about my old problems, such as talking to girls and talking to big groups and even going somewhere new, i would have a panic attack i said to her i just had to do it even if i hated it, i still hate doing somethings but thats the only way you can move forward.
Her answer was that it has already taken over her life so she can't do anything about it? She uses going to college as her excuse of trying new things, so i said to her you either change or i'm not going to be friends with someone who just leave friends hanging and don't go out of their way for them, she then has a go at me saying im harsh and apparently i don't care even then though for the past 6 months i've been very patient and relaxed by letting shit slide with her.
For example she saw her ex twice in one week (this was 2 weeks ago) This guy made her bi polar worse, by taking advantage of her after their relationship, knowing she is vulnerable. now why this is so wrong? as a good friend i am she asked me on that a Monday that on that Wednesday (we had a day off college) to have a gathering around my house, which i did, she then said to me over text that wednesday that her mum was okay one minute and the next hit her with glass and won't let go due to her mum thinking she isn't trying hard enough at college, so she comes in the next day with no scratches or anything, bit strange, right?
That Thursday night her mum just magically lets her go to her ex's house for the night? Seems even more strange, right aha?
SO basically yeah, what do i do ? do i just stop texting her and demand that she changes if she still wants any communication or help from me or should i be supportive of her? I know as soon as we leave college she isn't going to see me, i've been way too nice with her and let her get away with alot of shit which if i did, it would destroy her.
basically without boring you to death with what went wrong etc, she didn't see me at all outside college when we were dating, and ever now i havent seen her outside college, her excuse is that she is scared of experiencing "new things". Now, i basically was telling her that she has to experience new things to get past this fear and i tell her about my old problems, such as talking to girls and talking to big groups and even going somewhere new, i would have a panic attack i said to her i just had to do it even if i hated it, i still hate doing somethings but thats the only way you can move forward.
Her answer was that it has already taken over her life so she can't do anything about it? She uses going to college as her excuse of trying new things, so i said to her you either change or i'm not going to be friends with someone who just leave friends hanging and don't go out of their way for them, she then has a go at me saying im harsh and apparently i don't care even then though for the past 6 months i've been very patient and relaxed by letting shit slide with her.
For example she saw her ex twice in one week (this was 2 weeks ago) This guy made her bi polar worse, by taking advantage of her after their relationship, knowing she is vulnerable. now why this is so wrong? as a good friend i am she asked me on that a Monday that on that Wednesday (we had a day off college) to have a gathering around my house, which i did, she then said to me over text that wednesday that her mum was okay one minute and the next hit her with glass and won't let go due to her mum thinking she isn't trying hard enough at college, so she comes in the next day with no scratches or anything, bit strange, right?
That Thursday night her mum just magically lets her go to her ex's house for the night? Seems even more strange, right aha?
SO basically yeah, what do i do ? do i just stop texting her and demand that she changes if she still wants any communication or help from me or should i be supportive of her? I know as soon as we leave college she isn't going to see me, i've been way too nice with her and let her get away with alot of shit which if i did, it would destroy her.